Ten More Good Years - Growing Gracefully

Ten More Good Years

He said she only had about ten more good years.  What?  Only ten good ones before the aging tide swallows us into a sea of doctor visits and pain from this  ailment or that?

Five years ago, a friend told me something profound.  She said her older brother told her she should do all she wanted to do in her lifetime – and very soon.  He said she only had about ten more good years.  What?

Ten More Good Years - Growing Gracefully

A. L.

I’ve never forgotten that statement, and neither has my friend.  My friend and I laugh about her brother’s remark every time we’re together.  I realized recently that it isn’t really a ha-ha type of funny laugh.  These days, it’s more like nervous laughter.  (Really, only ten? )

While we never know how much longer we’ll have good health and vitality, we all seem to expect things to stay relatively the same.  Deep down inside, we know.  Anything could rear its ugly head  on an annual scan or in a regular check-up.  If we wait until that happens, we’ve waited too long and the coulda’s, woulda’s, and shoulda’s fill us with regret.  We should definitely prioritize a plan. Now rather than later!

To everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:1

Have you made a bucket list of sorts?  Do you have travel plans?  New ventures in life to experience?  New goals and challenges to conquer?  Things you’d like to learn?

God designed us with His perfect plan for our growing years as well as our growing older  years.  We should definitely plan for our growing older must-do’s  or they won’t get done.  Of course we have surprise health issues from time to time.  Things can change quickly, possibly negating a plan altogether.  My motto is:

Plan now – adjust later.

Step One:  The List

Get a notepad or piece of paper.  (Good to do with your hubby on  Valentine’s Day – yes, a date night. 🙂 )  Make your list of travel destinations, things you’d like to do or accomplish, physical events in which to take part (that triathlon, for one – just kidding, no pressure).

Number the items on your list in prioritized order.

Step Two:  The Schedule

Get your planner for this year and schedule the top three or four items on your list.

Step Three:  Expanding Schedule

On your notepad, list the next five years with space blocks vertically between.  Assign things from your list to each appropriate year according to your priorities.  Depending on your list length, you may need to schedule more than three to four per year or expand your list to eight or ten years.

Let’s manage our last ten good  years wisely – to the extent that we’re able, God willing. Feel better now?














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  • Roxanne

    I am SO HAPPY to see an email from you! What an excellent way to start a Monday. So true there are no guarantees in life, only God holds the plan. Wasn’t it John Lennon who said “life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”? Hope and pray you are doing well, sweet Kim.

    • Kim

      Surprise, surprise, eh? I finally started writing again. Look out – it’s addictive! Yes, I absolutely agree with that quote. (Not sure who said it, but anyone you say is good with me.) Thank you for praying. God is shining brightly and working His plan. Hugs!

  • Robin

    Aaahhh but remember Hezekiah? He was sick and God said He would add 15 years to his life! 🙂

    We aren’t at that stage where we can plan trips We still have a teenager in the house and are funds-deficient for planning anything in the near future.

    But. We do have plans that God has given us. So as long as we follow what HE wants us to do, He will provide the desires of our hearts. All the trips and whatevers will fall into place. But we do have a list of sorts.

    Newsflash: New microwave is now over the range! Whoop whoop! No more living like on the prairie! Lol It was a ROUGH week. Lol. We’d forget to take soup jars out of the freezer to defrost and then have to wait while it defrosted the old fashioned way, in a pot of water heated on the stove. Dinner was not always on time. Lol.

    All it took to get the microwave over the range was 5 years of the old one on the counter and it dying to get a new one! Ha! This one might have sat on the counter as well had I not reorganized the countertop appliances leaving NO ROOM for that monstrosity.

    We actually had a not so easy project. We had a range hood there previously that was hard wired. So we had wires (capped) poking out of the wall after we took it down. ( That is why the microwave sat on the counter for the 5 years we have been married. Lol). We had to install an outlet for the microwave. To some that might be a no brainer. I was always the “apprentice” in the past when doing stuff like that. My 1st husband was the expert. My now husband had not done electrical work. So. He googled. He You-tubed. He took the lead. Men need to know how to do this stuff. I didn’t want the typical “outlet sitting in the cabinet” deal, losing cabinet space, like in my old house. I cut a hole in the wall and attached an adjustable outlet box to the stud. I did have to cut off some of the metal bracket since we didn’t need to attached the side of the the box to the side of the outlet. 2 screws in front were enough. We cut a hole in the back of the cabinet and adjusted the depth of the outlet box. Now it’s flush on the back of the cabinet! Most of the cord from the microwave is hidden since there is room between the top of the microwave and the bottom of the cabinet. I didn’t lose ANY space in the cabinet! After that we installed a new dimmer switch in the bathroom. That old one was a push-to-turn-on-and-off and then turn it kind. I would push and push like 10 times to get it on and off. Not so fun when ya gotta go! And there is no natural light in the bathroom and other people are home so ya can’t go with the door open! Lol (Although, if I don’t totally close the door and hear the “click” Q barges in and the door is then wide open. Thanks pal. Lol).

    I have done outlet replacement before. But this was a new thing for my husband. The reason he never did any of this before was that he lived in an apartment when he married his 1st wife and then they had a new house. Nothing went wonky til he bought THIS house. Lol it’s not that old (2003) but the builder used junky materials and did shoddy work. Anything to save a buck. I don’t know how some stuff passed inspection originally and then again when he bought this house. For example, we have a sump pump hole and an outlet nearby but no sump pump or plumbing to drain it out of the house. Lol Inspector obviously was not doing his job! Lol

    Now I have a light over my stove again! It does help if you can SEE what you are cooking. Lol I smile when I look at our accomplishment. Now to just motivate one or both of us to go down to MT Basement and get back to work on that drywall. Lol. Oy. Lol

    • Kim

      I most enjoy your uplifting and happy outlook on things, problems or not! Another day, more things that need our attention! Right? I guess we should thank the Lord for giving us the things we need – even things that break occasionally. The fixing goes with the using. Presently, HH is digging in the yard to repair an electrical line to our well. That’s right. Mid-laundry load, suddenly no water. Praise God for running water! God has worked it all out to be repaired before dark. Let the race continue. “…let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” Hebrews 12:1b. Good luck with your next project! Happy Valentine’s! 🙂

  • Pam Richardson

    Kim, thank you for this reminder…Do It Now. Butch and I have traveled extensively for which we are grateful. The travels happened because of his accident and we knew then not to wait until later. Wishing you and your hubby a Happy Valentine’s! XOXO

  • Heather

    I have a bucket list of a few places I would like to go see (mostly cities in far away states, etc ), but at this time my husband doesn’t want to go to any of them. Maybe I will tell him about your post.

    • Kim

      What about inviting a friend for some travel adventure? I know someone your age who likes to go on group bus trips. “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”, as they say. 🙂

  • Alycia Nichols

    God willing indeed! Whether it’s 10 good years, months, weeks or minutes, I want to make the most out it right up to my last breath! I live for love, laughter, and all the goodness there is to be extracted from this gift of life. The world around me doesn’t always make it easy, but I know it’s up to me to live MY best life. God has blessed me with so much, and I’m truly grateful. What’s that quote? “To whom much is given, from him much is expected.” Yeah, baby! You got that right! So for those of us who recognize just how blessed we are, it is incumbent upon us to spread it around! Nice post, Kim I hope you are feeling well. Have a happy week!

    • Kim

      How are you doing, my dear? I think of you often and pray for your full recovery. You are my kind of woman! We could seriously hang out, but we’ve always known that. Your positive attitude is contagious, and I’m now skipping with laughter. Big, happy hug!

  • Diane

    Kim, thank you for this! You are so right, we never know. I will definitely consider this plan. I am 72 and my husband is disabled. We talk about doing things or going places, but always decide to stay at home. Need to get out of my comfort zone. God is so good and I am so blessed. Btw, your new picture is so good. You look younger.
    Love and blessings

    • Kim

      I’m blessed, for sure. My hubs loves to travel – especially by motorcycle. I can’t say I’ve been too willing since our last trip in September. Sort of a painful event, with the new and then unknown illnesses. Send your hubby over. It can’t hurt for him to read the post, right? Good luck with making and checking your list! 🙂

  • Ellen

    Thinking of you. Happy Easter to you and your family. Much love and virtual flowers
    To you. Hope and pray you are feeling good.

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