It's A Thought That Counts

It’s A Thought That Counts

I’ve avoided this discussion for long enough.  This is a tough one!  For me, at least, it’s tough to come clean with all the damage I allowed through negative self-talk.  This may not be a problem for you (and I hope it isn’t), but if you struggle with negative self-talk, today’s post is for you.

For years, I’ve been sensitive to correction from others.  Correction is supposed to help us, right?

Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
but whoever hates correction is stupid. (Proverbs 12:1)

I now know the reason (nerves damaged in the brain by Multiple Sclerosis), but there are times when I’ll be thinking one thing and something completely different comes out of my mouth.  From early on, it only took a few corrections to convince me that I was stupid, ignorant, and/or inadequate.

Not long after accepting correction and critical comments from others, you may begin to agree with it…and ultimately wear it like a cloak of truth…as part of your character.  Satan sure can weave in some damaging thoughts!  That’s how the devil works.  It begins with a thought (created in your mind but as a Satan-woven message).

My mind translated the corrections from others as messages of my own stupidity.  No one needs to actually call you dumb or stupid, but if you allow it, the meaning can be inferred.  The feelings grow over time in the way that Satan loves.  He’s crafty at getting control of us through our own minds!

The negative self-talk can be so constant that you begin to block critical comments altogether.  You just can’t handle any more correction.  Any.  More!  And you think it’s them.  But, it’s more than them – it’s you! 

By Satan’s design, you beat yourself up more than anyone else does, and you allow it.  It becomes such a pattern that you finally wake up one day and say, “This is not right.”  You realize you didn’t take control of your thoughts from the get-go.  You know it has morphed into much more than an innocent thought.

You reach a point where you are finally sick of it.  Sick of agreeing with Satan.  Sick of his fiery darts.  And, you begin to reverse the inner taping.  Recovery begins with Paul’s teachings.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing, and perfect will.  (Romans 12:2)


We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5)

It takes a firm commitment to reverse the inner taping.  God gives you new self-talk when you ask Him for it.  God loves you!  His will is always good, pleasing, and perfect.  If you will affirm God’s will and block any negative thought patterns, you are on your road to recovering your mind.

Take captive every thought by making a commitment to yourself to not allow those thoughts anymore.  At. All.  You can do it.  Your inner thought taping might be of a different sort than mine altogether, but any damaging negative thoughts about self are from Satan.

I ask you.  If you have negative self-talk, don’t you think it’s time to take them captive before they become your legacy?


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  • Ginger

    So true. We are created in God’s image. It’s easy to forget that in our world so filled with comparison and competition. He loves us unconditionally. When we really embrace that kind of love, we can love ourselves and then give that love away to others.

  • Robin

    I’m glad you shared this.
    Over the years I have known people who have done this. I think we are ALL guilty of it at some point. I thank God that I didn’t let it get so bad in my OWN life. Sometimes we do it to ourselves without realizing it. We don’t even need anyone else involved. It starts with things like, when you make a mistake you say, “ I’m such an idiot!” I know a guy who used to say that WAY TOO MUCH! I actually had had about enough of it that I started getting mad at him when he would do it! I would tell him,”There are enough people in the world who will put you down. Stop doing it to to yourself! You are actually starting to believe it!” It was so bad that his negativity was affecting ME. Needless to say, that person had to GO. I couldn’t have that in my life constantly.
    An example comes to mind…. when I forget to put something in my husband’s lunch I’ve kidded with him saying “I’m a bad wife”. I don’t say that anymore. I get enough attacks from the enemy as it is!

    Just an update on my son. He was back in the hospital. He was having trouble breathing. They told him he had mild pancreatitis and he also had to have a blood transfusion. Low hemoglobin. That is CRAZY! He is 24! They can’t explain ANY of it. The meds gave him anxiety. So now they have him in anti-anxiety meds for a short period. He was swollen. He gained 25 lbs In a week. They had to give him the IV form of a “water pill” to help him get rid of the fluid. They changed his BP meds. They checked his heart and lungs. He got out the other day. They said the kidney biopsy showed that last year’s dirt bike accident ( that lacerated his kidney) is the reason he has kidney issues. They said that when the kidney was damaged in the accident the lupus went there because it was damaged. I guess lupus does that. I’m still rebuking that diagnosis. So he sold his truck and his bikes. THAT part is great! No more daredevil! He has to start acting like a FATHER. He has been being dad to his gf’s 5 y/o son (as well as his own 2 y/o). He goes to his midget football practices and games ( when he is not in the hospital). He is determined to give he boys what he lacked. The 5 y/o has a father in his life, but he doesn’t act like one. He is a big kid. My boy is finally growing up!

    I had been forced to slow down lately. It’s been a long ride the last 2 weeks with this “bronchial” cold, but I’m getting there. I have learned to JUST REST. God is good ALL the time!

    • Kim

      I’m glad to hear you stopped saying that, Robin. I guess we all should be careful, even with teasing. Good advice for your friend, too. Thank you for the update. It seems like a roller-coaster of events with his health. I pray the docs will get to the bottom of it all and stop the prescription merry-go-round. Your rest period sounds good…essential for healing, as you know (as I sit in my comfy chair with a mug of hot tea). And yes, God is SO GOOD! 🙂

  • Belinda

    I think you’ve been inside my head. So, so, sooooo many regrets from years of emotional, self-esteem damaging negative self talk and assuming others are putting me down, down, down. How I wish I could turn back the clock and reverse all of this. Now I see a lot of the negative come through my daughter and others that were in my life at that time. Ouch, hallelujah is what I say.
    Thank you.
    In some ways it’s good to know I’m not alone but…

    • Kim

      Oh, Belinda, I hear you! I’m sad for you but so glad you’re on this side of it all. Please don’t let Satan beat you up over your past regrets. Now maybe it’s time to help the others you mentioned to deal with the same type of issues. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  • Eva

    Been keeping you and your family in my prayers also. Thanks so much for thinking of me. Always glad to hear that you have made a step forward

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