I’ve avoided this discussion for long enough. This is a tough one! For me, at least, it’s tough to come clean with all the damage I allowed through negative self-talk. This may not be a problem for you (and I hope it isn’t), but if you struggle with negative self-talk, today’s post is for you.
For years, I’ve been sensitive to correction from others. Correction is supposed to help us, right?
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
but whoever hates correction is stupid. (Proverbs 12:1)
I now know the reason (nerves damaged in the brain by Multiple Sclerosis), but there are times when I’ll be thinking one thing and something completely different comes out of my mouth. From early on, it only took a few corrections to convince me that I was stupid, ignorant, and/or inadequate.
Not long after accepting correction and critical comments from others, you may begin to agree with it…and ultimately wear it like a cloak of truth…as part of your character. Satan sure can weave in some damaging thoughts! That’s how the devil works. It begins with a thought (created in your mind but as a Satan-woven message).
My mind translated the corrections from others as messages of my own stupidity. No one needs to actually call you dumb or stupid, but if you allow it, the meaning can be inferred. The feelings grow over time in the way that Satan loves. He’s crafty at getting control of us through our own minds!
The negative self-talk can be so constant that you begin to block critical comments altogether. You just can’t handle any more correction. Any. More! And you think it’s them. But, it’s more than them – it’s you!
By Satan’s design, you beat yourself up more than anyone else does, and you allow it. It becomes such a pattern that you finally wake up one day and say, “This is not right.” You realize you didn’t take control of your thoughts from the get-go. You know it has morphed into much more than an innocent thought.
You reach a point where you are finally sick of it. Sick of agreeing with Satan. Sick of his fiery darts. And, you begin to reverse the inner taping. Recovery begins with Paul’s teachings.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing, and perfect will. (Romans 12:2)
We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5)
It takes a firm commitment to reverse the inner taping. God gives you new self-talk when you ask Him for it. God loves you! His will is always good, pleasing, and perfect. If you will affirm God’s will and block any negative thought patterns, you are on your road to recovering your mind.
Take captive every thought by making a commitment to yourself to not allow those thoughts anymore. At. All. You can do it. Your inner thought taping might be of a different sort than mine altogether, but any damaging negative thoughts about self are from Satan.
I ask you. If you have negative self-talk, don’t you think it’s time to take them captive before they become your legacy?