In last week’s post, I mentioned that I added my new California flight friend to my prayers. Although I prejudged her for her reaction to my story about Emmie (as explained in that post), we never know what others are going through. What hard things in her life was she possibly struggling to get through? How could I tell?
While tough seasons give us a tender heart for others, before that eventually kicks in, our own pain can dull our senses. A pain bucket that’s filled to the rim can cause us to block any pain from outside sources above what we’re already dealing with on our own.
Your subconscious mind protects you and blocks your heart from any additional pain it knows you can’t quite handle – even the pain of those you love.
Have you ever been in that situation? Did you feel yourself teeter on the brink of depression and hang on by your fingernails so not to go over the edge into a full breakdown?
My flight friend clearly could have been in the middle of personal trauma, marital issues, or something so devastating herself and unable to think of the pain I was explaining about Emmie! That’s why I added her to my prayers. After last week’s post, I thought I should bring that point out as a sort of continuation of the love and compassion topic . . . with more points to ponder.
- Did my distress over Emmie’s story blind my intuition about my flight friend’s possible personal problems?
- Has instant communication and shallow social media numbed my own senses to those around me who may be hurting?
- Is my God-given intuition in need of repair?
- Do I need to seek God in self-discovery over a lack of discernment?
- Did my friend keep her pain to herself so as not to add to my distress? If so, I mistook her for a woman without compassion when her compassion was for me!
Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32)
What if my flight friend was in too much pain to open herself up to the pain of another? How are we to know in a situation like that? She appeared to be a happy person with no problems at all . . . but she could be a good hider.
Are you a good hider?
I admit, I’m not a good hider. My face gives things away every time! But, then again, maybe it depends on the person to whom we’re speaking . . . their intuition, their discernment, their compassion. Some people are tuned in to you – to such a degree that you cannot hide. What a gift they have and are to others!
Are you tuned in? Am I?
How can we better tune in to those who may be hurting and in a hard season? Please share your thoughts on this in the comments section. I’d really like to hear how it’s done.
Because He lives~