In your current season, do you feel you are stuck in a pattern of hearing no from God? No to this, no to that. Does no seem to be His only answer lately? Are you having a pity-party over that?
Or, maybe you have a huge, over-arching longing to which you hear a continual no. Or at least no, not yet.
No, your prodigal hasn’t returned.
No, your illness hasn’t vanished.
No, your marriage isn’t mended.
No, your finances are still nothing but a mess.
Either way, many of us may be experiencing a constant stream of noes in our lives right now, and the Lord wants to change our perspective.
How to Stop the Pity-Party Over the Noes
Step One: Don’t be blinded to things for which God is saying “YES!”
How we love to hear God say,
Stop for a moment and read that again. Close your eyes and rest in that. In Him. His love.
Focusing on the noes makes our current season seem worse. Hearing a no feels limiting. Depressing. It can make you feel you are at a disadvantage. That God doesn’t love you. His word says His love is limitless, so stop running the tape of the opposite through your mind.
Instead, look at all His yes answers. Acknowledge the areas where God is saying YES in your life. His provision, His protection, your security in Him. See all the areas of blessing in your life right now.
Step Two: His Promises
Meditate on scripture … His word.
For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs. (Zephaniah 3:17)
When we intentionally look at the areas where God is saying YES, we see His goodness. We recognize the YESes.
The Lord is good to everyone. He showers compassion on all his creation. (Psalm 145:9)
His generosity is astounding when you really look at it. Pay attention each day to the blessings God sends your way. They add up rather quickly!
Step Three: Recognize daily that everything you have belongs to God.
If you’ve been here since early June, you probably know I read through Annie Downs’ book 100 Days to Brave* (Amazon affiliate link) during the summer. Day 80 was one of my favorites. I could list so many of them as a fave(!), and Annie’s book opened my eyes to looking at bravery in entirely new areas.
I could go on and on about Day 80 in particular, but I’ll briefly make a specific point Annie highlights in that day’s devo. Everything we have is God’s. We know that. But Annie’s quote really grabs the heart of it.
Living like everything you have is God’s (because it is)? That’s brave.
Living like it means we truly understand it, accept it, consume it, and embody it – incorporating it into every area of our life.
Yes, we get that our possessions belong to God.
But accepting that your story (your future) belongs to God? That’s a deeper step into trusting Him – in spite of the noes – and can be much harder. Don’t you think? As Jim Waller puts it,
When God says YES, nobody can say NO.
What a peace we have in the Lord through His protection, His provision, and His promises. Acknowledging those yeses takes away the sting and fear from the noes.
In what ways has God taught you to dwell on His yeses rather than the noes?
Because He lives~
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