I’ve heard the term “old bitty” my entire life. I might (or might not) have even called someone by that term on occasion quietly to myself. Any proper Southern woman would never say that directly to someone’s face. That just wouldn’t do!
Do you have an occasional fear of becoming an old bitty? What would qualify us as such?
First we must decide on a spelling. Urban Dictionary spells it “Bitty”. Dictionary.com spells it “Biddy”. Both sites define an old bitty as someone who is unpleasant. The term “bitter” comes to mind. Bitty is a derivative of bitter, so Bitty is the spelling I choose here. 🙂
Secondly, since we throw “old” in there with Bitty, we must qualify as elderly to be an old bitty. I don’t know about you, but in my fifties I consider myself to be quite a few years from the elderly category. How about you?
Besides, old is a mindset. If we think young, we act younger, and therefore, seem younger to those around us. Being bitter is a choice we make – an action. If we act bitterly towards those around us, we appear to be stuck in our unpleasant ways and all too willing to share our somewhat negative opinions, even when not asked.
To avoid the title of an old bitty, don’t be bitter. Wear a smile on your face. Keep negative opinions to yourself. Think young and positive and pleasant!
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. (Philippians 4:8)
I speak to myself here as much as to you. Don’t think I’m totally innocent in this, because I’m just as guilty as the next embracer -or more so!
It’s especially hard to guard our attitudes during the years of mental pause. We need to be forever conscious of our words and demeanor with others no matter what is going on in our lives – whether in a tough or triumphant season. For others to see Christ in us, we need to cling to our trust in Jesus and shine His light. That sometimes requires us to step beyond a situational tough season and inner turmoil. I know. Hard. To. Do.
This doesn’t mean you have to be a fake. Others who know you personally know when you are in a tough season. They know you are rising above your personal trauma and giving God control. What a testimony that is – to His love, His faithfulness, His care of you, His finishing work in your situation that we know is soon to be.
So, what about you in your non-bitty-dom (my made-up term)? Have you ever feared becoming known as an old bitty? What techniques have you used to evade the title? I look forward to your comments and input.